{"id":35,"date":"2015-10-03T20:39:45","date_gmt":"2015-10-03T20:39:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/journalismthatmatters.org\/experienceengagementsessionnotes\/how-can-we-truly-engage\/"},"modified":"2015-10-03T20:39:45","modified_gmt":"2015-10-03T20:39:45","slug":"how-can-we-truly-engage","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/journalismthatmatters.org\/experienceengagementsessionnotes\/2015\/10\/03\/how-can-we-truly-engage\/","title":{"rendered":"How can we truly engage?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Session host: Sydette Harry<br \/>\nReporter: Samantha Shotzbarger<br \/>\nParticipants: Mitch Fantin<br \/>\nBen Dejournette<br \/>\nAmalia Alacon<br \/>\nMarissa Grass<br \/>\nNathan Stevens<br \/>\nEmmalee McDonald<br \/>\nJim Cyngels<br \/>\nJordyn Holman<br \/>\nEd Madison<br \/>\nBruce Poinsette<br \/>\nLinda Miller<\/p>\n<p>The Knot excercise:<br \/>\nConstant communication<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>verbal<\/li>\n<li>leading and following<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>TRUST<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>need to know: whose hand are you holding?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>-&#8220;It was easier for someone else to see what I needed than for me to see it&#8221;<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Trusting that someone was telling you the truth<\/li>\n<li>Maintaining connection<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li>What are the things that make a good engagement?<\/li>\n<li>What about the bad?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>GOOD:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>doesn&#8217;t have to go smoothly<\/li>\n<li>how do two conflicting perspectives meet?<\/li>\n<li>listening essential<\/li>\n<li>safe space<\/li>\n<li>Have some rules of engagement<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p> &#8212; lack of rules can cause confusion or frustration<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>&#8220;everyone means well, but we have the potential to mess it up.&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>good conversation often occurs when seeking to understand, not necessarily to be understood.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>HOW DOES IT MAKE YOU FEEL?<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>slightly uncomfortable<\/li>\n<li>build shared understanding<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;I wonder if I&#8217;m talking too much&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>connected<\/li>\n<li>Eureka moment!<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>WHAT WOULD HELP GOOD CONVOS AND ENGAGEMENT?<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>What do you need:<\/li>\n<li>establish own boundaries<\/li>\n<li>context: where the conversation happens matters<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&#8211;may affect choice<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>not asking questions on behalf of a large group<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Media perspective: always looking for a representative<br \/>\n&#8211;should give power to set parameters in engagement<br \/>\n-ask for permission &#8220;what do you want to be identified as&#8221;<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>need a physically comfortable space<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;I always meet in a park&#8221;<\/li>\n<li>neutral spaces<\/li>\n<li>hostile areas\/ what happens when an entire area is hostile?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&#8212; ONLINE? WHO OWNS THAT SPACE?<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>easier to identify a physical area<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;30th person to ask&#8221; fatigue<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>options can be difficult in digital arena<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>another place easy to exit from though<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>The third option: EFFECTIVE conversation<\/p>\n<p>TAKEAWAYS:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Choices<\/li>\n<li>Context<\/li>\n<li>Conversations as equals<\/li>\n<li>honor, intention addressing the impact<\/li>\n<li>Rules of engagement<\/li>\n<li>Some feel fulfilled\/ taken from<\/li>\n<li>neutral and safe spaces in-person and online<\/li>\n<li>empathy<\/li>\n<li>space for an exit<\/li>\n<li>asking permission to engage in a conversation<\/li>\n<li>&#8220;Is it ok for you?&#8221; &#8220;Can we go there&#8221;<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&#8212; or &#8220;nope. not today.&#8221;<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>boundaries<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Session host: Sydette Harry Reporter: Samantha Shotzbarger Participants: Mitch Fantin Ben Dejournette Amalia Alacon Marissa Grass Nathan Stevens Emmalee McDonald Jim Cyngels Jordyn Holman Ed Madison Bruce Poinsette Linda Miller The Knot excercise: Constant communication verbal leading and following TRUST &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/journalismthatmatters.org\/experienceengagementsessionnotes\/2015\/10\/03\/how-can-we-truly-engage\/\">Continue reading <span class=\"meta-nav\">&rarr;<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1026,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[2],"tags":[10,14,33],"class_list":["post-35","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-post","tag-conversation","tag-engagement","tag-talking"],"aioseo_notices":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/journalismthatmatters.org\/experienceengagementsessionnotes\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/35","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/journalismthatmatters.org\/experienceengagementsessionnotes\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/journalismthatmatters.org\/experienceengagementsessionnotes\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/journalismthatmatters.org\/experienceengagementsessionnotes\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1026"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/journalismthatmatters.org\/experienceengagementsessionnotes\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=35"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/journalismthatmatters.org\/experienceengagementsessionnotes\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/35\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/journalismthatmatters.org\/experienceengagementsessionnotes\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=35"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/journalismthatmatters.org\/experienceengagementsessionnotes\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=35"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/journalismthatmatters.org\/experienceengagementsessionnotes\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=35"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}